Wife left, wants a divorce, what can I do?

[mkultra]

Go to the library if you have time and check out any Divorce Remedy books. The librarian can order them for you. Do not enlist her family as this will seem like an act of betrayal. Do some 180s now by getting your home in order. Make the primary residence seem as safe and loving as possible. No one wants to come home only to be begged, cajoled, guilted or to get into trouble. She has a drinking problem and family issues so she needs to go to counseling, but that will have to be her decision. Plus, it is very expensive if you do not have health insurance. There are some county programs that help with marital and alcohol abuse. Do not badmouth her. Stay positive. The bar is a horrible place to comiserate. That is where my H works and now he is having affairs and is drinking and driving and may have a drug problem. Bars are very bad for married folks but you cannot control her. Maybe show your face a few days to show thatyou are willing to be the one to pick her up if she gets drunk. The bartenders at my H's work kept on eye out for me and I put up a pic of our kids on the bar mirror so everyone knew he was married. Still, bar whores are bar whores. As much as it is killing you, you came here so that means you have now assumed the stable role and you will need to support her until she is ready to be a divorce buster. Believe me, I know. My H and I switched places. I always wanted out andhe always keot the marriage going, now he wants out and I am trying to keep things going. But now there are kids and Other Woman involved, makes it much tougher. You can do it even if you are doing it alone. But you need to read the book. Buy it used and get your finances in order. Youcannot support someone else until you can support yourself. It is like that airplane analogy. Put on your oxygen mask first or else you cannot help others. This is a good venting post so feel free. You would be surptised how many people can relate to your problems with bipolar.