As others have noticed, you have clearly emerged from your funk! You are so far out of it, in fact, that your feet seem to be a tad elevated above the ground. It does seem to me that you are in the perfect place (floating/comfortably numb?) from which to compassionately evaluate your wife's actions. It's likely that she felt exactly the same rush from the attentions of OM: the same sense of multitudes of fine prospects from which to select. Anybody would get a glow and a high and a sense of self-worth from the sort of attention you have been receiving. Something similar must have happened to your wife....must have happened to my husband.
Yet now that you, perhaps, have more in common with your wife than you may have experienced in a long time, you seem to be pushing her away and judging her more harshly. In this, also, you and your wife's experiences seem to run parallel. It's possible that she, also, pushed you away and judged you harshly in preparation to leaving.
All I'm saying is that the two of you have the possibility of greater understanding of one another.
But somehow I think that you are more ready to explore the night life than to analyze and understand. I don't blame you at all. I think that it's natural, but also a little bit sad. I have also dated people, although my divorce is not yet final---and the high of it is very intense.
And just a little dating tip: women find it very easy to conceal who they really are.
