My old thread locked and appears to have been lost.

Update...

Well I perhaps shot myself in the foot big time this morning, but I cannot change what has happened, so here it goes......

We spoke on the phone, and I was feeling so unhappy I told her that we should try to agree a time to meet to discuss next steps. She asked me what that meant, and I told her it meant we needed to start planning the finalisation of our marriage. She appeared shocked, and expressed surprise - 'you are giving me mixed messages about what you want' - well yes I am but hell I am on an emotional roller coaster ride and suffering badly here.

I told her it was not what I wanted, that she knew how I felt, but that I was doing this for her because it was I felt what she wanted at this stage, and that it felt like she couldn't bring herself to admit this was what she wanted. She didn't deny or agree.

We agreed to meet next Sunday for lunch, when she will see the dogs for the first time since leaving.

What to do now - half of me says I screwed it up, half of me says I got it right and that enough is enough.

Help???


Me - 39
W - 33
M - 5yrs
Bomb - 8/5 2007
Moving out - 9/8 2007