Some of this is probably from how she was raised. Her mother was married twice, and anytime there was any problem at all, no matter how minor, she'd move in with her mother. It seems that none of them have any respect for marriage or values. Nothing else matters as long as they are all living in the same house. At one time there were 9 people living in a 2 bedroom house. I'm not trying to bash them too much, but 4 out of 4 kids dropped out of school, all of them (including mother but twice) have been in mental institutions, one brother has just been arrested for armed robbery, the mother allowed my wife to move out and live with 25 year old friends when she was 12, allowed her to get a tattoo when she was 11. When we first started dating, she still had some problems, but I saw the "good person" person in there. That person did come out, but she'd relapse occasionally. I just wish that she didn't choose to move back in with them, because I'm worried that the good person will not come back this time. I realize that people change, but how often do people change so much so fast? She's bipolar, but refuses to do anything about it. Whenever we're good, we feel like nothing can stop us and we can take on the world. When we're not, it's like being in quicksand with her family pulling down on our legs. I just don't want her to turn back into them. I'm so scared on what may happen and need her in my life. I'm doing good on giving her space and such, but we still have a mortgage and bills to pay. She wanted to give her brother money so his car wouldn't get repo'd, instead of paying our overdue mortgage. He's either going to be in jail or house arrest in a month or two, so why would he need a car to begin with? Sorry for the ranting, I guess this is a "venting" post.
