I love your boob shirts reference! I need to get out more as mine are collecting dust. Funny when I was home they were in rotation now that I am separated they just sit there in a trash bag that I haven't even bothered to unpack.
Anyway I took a break from here to clear my head.
How are things going on your search for a new bigger place? Did you make any decisions or make any headway with W on the subject? I do agree with you that taking the kids a couple days a week to a place of your own could be a good thing. Esp since you have been pretty much spending all the time at your house with W but just not sleeping there. Maybe its time to up the anty. She may need to see what its like with you really not there? I don't know maybe I am wrong but I think you are on to something here. Give her more space and see where it leads? Esp since it seems like you are stuck in the same cycle without any steps forward. Who knows if you make it clear that is your next step she may finally realize that you are practically living at home with her anyway.
Me: 30 EX-H: 37 DD: 5 Separated 6/07. MC for months, EX-H quit MC. Divorce Final 8/14/08. Trying to move on with new life.