Even if you put a gun to my head, I can still choose to defy you and let you shoot me.
Which is actually the best way not to get shot.
That might be one way to avoid getting shot, but how do you think the other person feels knowing that you defy him/her? Putting a gun to someone’s head is a power play and defying that gun is a counter power play.
It could be that the other person doesn’t have any bullets in the gun and only wants to sooth him/herself by making the threat, or has no real intention of pulling the trigger. So another response might be to simply say “I love you, I choose to stay with you, I will not fight you and if you shoot me you will hurt me, but then there will be consequences. So for now, you are free to shoot me.”
Remember that there needs to be some emotional connection, but the very fact that the other person put the gun to your head indicates that connection does in fact exist. So while it may seem like suicide to make the statement I just described, it is actually quite safe. But it does take faith, and that is a whole other discussion.
