Oh how funny. I just wrote some advice on my thread about that very subject. I said to not rally the troops and get too detailed about the bombs or separation. Yes, people will treat you differently and it is best to keep a lot of the details private. That is why I am here all th etime because I find it almost impossible to NOT talk smack about my H's crazinesss. I fear my married friends find I am a third wheel or even a bad influence, like I am badmouthing men in general. I do not. But it is a natural response. Almost all my friends are married. I know very few single or divorced people. I did feel like I lost some friends in the beginning but by doing 180s and GAL I have attracted a wonderful support system back into my life. I have not attracted my own H and I thought that was the point, but look at how wonderful it has turned out. I have plans every weekend because I GAL. I have a way more positive relationship with my inlaws and my parents because I did 180s. My kids are also better off, they are sad and they suffer but they play and see their friends now that I GAL more. I used to say NO to social stuff, maybe from anxiety, now I force myself to say YES and make it happen. Act as if you do want too be set up with your friends' single friends. I know that sounds crazy, but become the kind of woman that people think is a prize for their brothers and sons. It is the greatest compliment to have a coworker notice you are single and say they have a single brother who you should meet. That means you are a likeable person.
Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."
