PLEASE HELP! Encouragement needed!

[mkultra]

I guess in any crisis or emergency they say the first thing to do is NOT PANIC. You must repeat this to yourself over and over so that you can think clearly. Get sleep, eat, breathe, excercise, pray, talk and cry to a friend you trust is pro marriage. But do not panic. If you feel the anxiety and panic is too overwhelming then you may need to see a therapist or take some time off. Is babysitting good or bad for you at this point? Say NO if you must take care of yourself. If that is not an option than think of ways to GAL with the toddler like going to an outdoor Farmer's Market. I used to get anxiety at the zoo when I saw all those "loving" dads but I used an exercise to get through it. I fantasized that I had a blow horn and yelled out that my husband left his family for a younger woman and that I was now all alone at the zoo. No joke. I imagined that the majority of people in our society would empathize with me not him! It totally works on airplanes and at amusement parks, malls, everywhere. Most people admire the person who holds it together whether it is a marriage or a single parent family. You can hold it together. Don't worry that you lost some traction. Act as if next time and from now on. Do not punish him, yet.... It does no good at this stage. He is the one who has to live with his own guilt so act above it as if you are fogiving and graceful. That may be your 180 also.