Yes, he always tries to help people. I did point out to H after he justified still calling her/her calling him "You are worried about her hurting, well, don't you realize that continuing contact is hurting her husband and myself? That calling actually is hurting her chances to make her marriage work?" He doesn't see it, he just doesn't. They are friends, he says.
It hurts so much, its almost unreal. So sorry you are hurting too.
