Growing up is hard to do

[peaceful_spirit]

My C told me that they shouldn't come home as 'wounded chldren' but as men, and to do this they have to work things through

This makes perfect sense. And I agree. My H is not in any way through this. I also think he is terribly depressed. And while he is in therapy, I think he is resistant to really digging down to the heart of the matter.

Lissie, you are correct. he is not capable of being married right now - maybe ever.

I said some terrible things last night. I am just so sick of this over and over and over again. Same $hit time and again. False promises. Catching him in lies. Him avoiding answer question. Him putting himself before anybody else.

I don't necessarily want to file right now. But I want to move this forward in some way. I need him to know that I am serious. I need to tell myself that I am serious.

He is a terribly flawed man. I know this is hard. I know it will get harder. I also know I can't be stuck in this hell forever.