I4R2 my H had a QLC at 30, that didnt get finished and i dont think he ever went through the whole thing. several attempts with OW's and one PA with a totally unsuitable OW, he was a cop she a cocaine dealer and 19.
his parents threatened to yank inheritance and then his mom died of pancreatic cancer. so fast forward to now...his dad dies 2001...he looses family business 2003....and yes those were the triggers. affair 2005 -2007....about 18 months. real replay...real hard replay. another unsuitable OW....25 yrs younger....looking for a sugar daddy.
depression slowly gets him out of replay and he comes home in July.
Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest
