the aftermath of the whole D sitch and the things he said & did to me are what are the hardest to deal w/ at times. You may find that you don't see your W the same way anymore and you probably never will. She will be an entirely different person to you, because the W you married would never have done & said the things she did. I think those are the hardest things to deal w/ when rekindling an M from the "almost left" person's POV.
This is very true. And time can help. But it also helps to see the new R/M as having the potential to be better than ever. That takes a lot of conscious effort on the part of the LBS but it can work. I think part of our pride gets in the way and of course resentment, but our S's cannot change that in us. Only we can manage those emotions. If we don't, the M is probably not going to make it.
