There and Back, #5

[nephartiti]

Hang in there, Morgan. Just take it slow. I read in the going dark thread yesterday something about getting the love from your partner flowing again.

"Seduce to find the smallest crack for this flow to start flowing again. But the seduction must be very subtle, quiet. It cannot appear as persuit-compliments, praise, when we touch letting the touch linger a little too long, telling her how pretty she looks, what a great mom she is, etc--anything that reinforces and draws out this flow of love."

Anyway, you get the idea.

Boundaries are good and essential for respect to be established. You respect yourself and he will have no choice but to do the same. Since he is making it clear that he wants you physically, I think it is reasonable to maintain your boundaries at this point, for yourself and your children.

IF I were so lucky to be in your position, I would express, when the time was right, that altough it is extremely tempting to participate, I respect myself too much to be the OW while he is with someone else. That is not making any demands on him. It is simply setting the boundary of respect. In the mean time, I would still flirt, stay mysterious, and accept some invites to "play family".

Baby baby steps. Hold his hand, but don't pick him up and carry him.