OK - there appear to be several approaches to divorce by the MLCer. Some of them go right ahead and file, and take to the hills; others mess around for a while, and then end up filing. SOme go through with it, and others don't. But it seems to happen in early to mid Replay [no time line here, just an observation, from an admittedly small sample] Then there are what seem to be the 'confused divorcers', where they start divorce proceedings at least a year post bomb. It is as if a bit of them thinks that if they go ahead with a divorce it will simplify things and make them clearer.
They don't NECESSARILY want the divorce, but they are swirling around in a fog. As I said, this group seems to start thinking about divorce when they have been in MLC fog quite a while - 18 months - 2 years. Some things are becoming clearer to them, and they want more clarity, and less muddle. But they aren't through the crisis and as we know, some [many??] don't make it through.
I am not saying, or presuming to say, that your h does or doesn't want the divorce. But it is possible that he doesn't know himself, andas BND says,it depends on the day and the mood.
Spewing vs indifference. Some people are angry, and others more depressed. This can give an appearance of profound indifference. I think we hear more about the anger, but I suspect many of us are nonplussed a lot of the time by their 'couldn't care less' attitude. In some ways at least as hurtful as being yelled at.
