I think he has to pay her back quickly to get her done and out of the way...no reason for her to contact and vice versa...
Also, I agree and understand with what she is stating about his job...many men do define themselves by their career...my H lost his job through no fault of his own...massive lay off after 9-11...this pretty much set off the major MLC that is JUST NOW settling down...he hasn't been able to hold down a regular job since he lost his career job...sad, but true...it did devistate him and drove him to living on credit that he can't pay back now...he went nuts with it and ran up over 120K in debt in a little over a year!!!...that is devistation my friend...when a man can't think past tomorrow to realize that he is digging a whole a deeper then he will be able to climb out of...Cat03's H is obviously treading water right now...
But...CAT03!...you can't really protect him...he might just have to face the devistating effects of his actions...much like my H is having to do...and yes, this will effect you to the extent you allow it to...I say this because sometimes if you can see the situation coming to a head you might need to move your game plan a bit to protect yourself...I filed and still have in place a judgement of legal separation...this keeps the creditors from coming after me...
Hang in there...just another upside down turn in the roller coaster ride...but there is always an end and it usually doesn't mellow until then....take care of you...Lin
