Sandi2 Yes, I agree. But, we females do the "dance" when we "want" to have sex. OH? I saw the dance many, many years ago. In the last 10 years I saw something that wasn't "the dance" when I said I was through. I think this is what Marvin is talking about.
Anyway, after so many decades of complaining about the lack of sex....it finally stopped altogether. Yes, I have been thinking about that too.
Why??? W said it is too hot for sex in the summer time, lets not do it in the summer time. Then there are fall alergies, colds in the winter time. Too late, have to work/appointment tomorrow and other reasons my W finds to not do it.
Me, I give her back and foot rubs several times during the week. I guess that doesn't get her reved up enough.
If you are the HD partner and you know you have a LD partner, for God's sake......go in there and do the dance if you have to be the one to do it every time......just as long as somebody does it....or else end up like me and my H. Yes, Sandi2, that is what I am doing. It is emotionally difficult. How do I keep it up?
BTW, sometimes we do have an emotional connection and sex is OK, but it is more often me doing the dance with a partner that gave up her desire in 1981 and is doing it passively for me.
You don't want that. It is too lonely. I agree.
We have gone so many years now without sex until I don't know if we will ever be intimate again. That is very sad to me. I haven't gone that long w/o sex so am not in as bad of a position as your's. (((((Sandi2))))) I extend a warm friendly hand to you. I guess I better read your old posts to learn of your story.
Sandi2, some guys do and do the dance but it doesn't do anything for the W, till he has a foot out the door. CDSM34 was one of those women.
Men want alternatives to walking in order to wake up the W. Men want alternatives to W's willing to have sex, but only if the W wants some gift ot some other thing.
