My friend's TH said that W walk away from an unhappy R for a variety of reasons but men will in an unhappy R unless there is someone else waiting in the wings. I wanted out several times because of my H's anger and depression but H never wanted out because of the kids .....until someone flirted with him one night. He was gone in a flash that time and hasn't looked back.
I certainly agree with this. I don't think I personally know a man who has left his marriage and it wasn't because of an affair. On the other hand I have known of women to leave their marriages for a variety of reasons from abuse to adultery to simply saying that they had fallen out of love. The falling out of love I find is a very lame reason especially when children are involved.
When my H just out of the blue told me he wanted out I knew there was someone else although he insisted there wasn't.
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
