I sent it about 2 months ago. Part of his reply is that he just has never loved me, and that I can't love for the both of us. When it comes to filing for a D, it has never been about not loving me. It has always been justified by "I just don't want to hurt anymore."
You're right. One of my main problems is that I am so scared to stop being "nice." I do see that being nice has gotten me nowhere, yet I can't seem to get to that place where I can say that he needs help (and yes, I agree, he does).
I also can't stop myself from trying to save him, even though all wisdom tells me that it is impossible to do so anyway. Like I said, the clarity I have for all other sitches is just not here.
