Asking for help...not an easy thing for me

[Lissie]

I feel like every move I make is the wrong one. I try to talk to him and it blows up in my face. The only way he seems relaxed is if we are pretending the D isn't happening. No lie, he will make references to finances by saying things such as, "both of our cars will be paid off in the Spring, so that will really help out," only days after sitting in court and telling the moderator that he would no longer be paying my car payment or insurance.

Well one day in the middle of the "pretending" I would ask him in a calm , cool way

Hey do you want this D or what buddy?

Puffy does the same thing, when we get along, it's like we are not getting a D at all.

weird.

I think it may be a control issue for him, and he needs to get this D for whatever reason,

but he still needs to hold on to the best part of his life, you and the children.

You have nothing to lose by just being honest with him about your feelings.

We can DB all we want, but sometimes we have to be our natural selves, and just lay it on the line once in a while

You have great advice here.

Lissett