Sara, Thank You. I don't think that he would entertain doing that at this point.
Was2sad, You are completely right that the wrong choice could drive him further away. We do best when we are interacting a lot. However, I tend to get my feelings hurt and start to feel taken advantage of at times. I like your suggestions on talking about how the kids will learn to communicate. Thank you for your reply.
RCR,
Originally Posted By: Rollercoasterider
I am a tad nervous. I'm a cheerleader and don't want to be an Arfer...
That made me smile. You're a smart cookie, ain't ya?
Ugh. Those quotes you pulled make me squeamish! I hate that it is ME writing them!!! I hope you do get back to post more. I do appreciate your thoughts. It is funny that I can read threads here and have such clarity, but I cannot seem to apply that to my own sitch.
He just left a few minutes ago. He came up to my room and layed on the floor and then the end of the bed and just kind of relaxed. (Son was up there, too).
One of the dumb things I said today was that he called me all weekend long about the tournament games, yet yesterday when the regular season started I never heard from him. This made him angry, and he said he is always doing something wrong according to me. I probably shouldn't have said anything, I just thought that I was doing the right thing by pointing it out. I wanted him to understand my feelings.
So, I figure it this way:
Tomorrow is game 2 of reg. season. I will see if he calls me. This will tell me a lot about what he took from our conversation. It will also send me spinning again if he does call. I will then know that he is trying to right a wrong, and I will wonder why he bothers if he wants out so bad! I do so much better when detaching. My problem with that is that it is so hard to detach and still keep nice feelings about him. I tend to turn to the dark side when I detach. I guess that just makes me human though, eh?
