He got angry and said that he had no idea what I wanted.
Well, tell him.
Actually my first thought after reading your post was that you should look you H right in the eye and ask: "Do you want this divorce or not?" As my Cs said if you want to know something you have to ask. And to be honest, things he asked you and said to you are definitely relationship talk type things. He seems ready to talk. Asking if he should tell you when you hurt him is definitely relationship stuff.
The long and short of it is that your emotions are having difficulty dealing with this. You know it. You've told us. It isn't worth analyzing all of that. What you are feeling is understandable. But you have two choices. Put it all out there or detach your @$$ off. The first choice is obviously a high risk/high reward choice. You have to decide.
Regarding money, it is what it is. I would remove it from the equation at this point. Your comment was forward thinking to something that hasn't happened yet. It obviously has not made you stop desiring to have your marriage repaired. Deal with today.
