In less than 2 weeks I plan on talking to her. Going to have the forbidden "R" talk to, its be too long since we talked about anything. It is time to put some clarity on this situation.
I am going to take my time to truly consider my words before we talk, but I want to get from her where she views the future of our relationship. I will also express my views to her. I plan to keep my emotions in check.
NDDT- I read your post and felt the need to write something, because I know how I would react if it was me in your W position. I am from the "other side" and I see a potential train wreck headed your way if you follow through with the talk so soon after she leaves. I do not know your W or you for that matter but, I strongly encourage you to think your talk idea through, as it could make your sitch far worse. Your W most likely knows your views and the clarity (as much as it sucks) on your situation appears to be pretty clear at the moment. I'm sure this is not any easier for her as one may think. We do not intentionally set out to make our H miserable, we do suffer as well.
Also, you may want to steer completely clear of discussions about the "future" at this point in time. This talk may just push her farther away and that's not what you want, right? I'm telling you from a perspective similar to hers and its dangerous territory to go where you want. Please remember that you can not fix this or make her feelings change in 2 weeks. (I am sure you are fully aware of this). Give her quiet and alone time to think. It may not seem fair to you, but it is what is needed.
Please listen to the other LBS. Spend time with your D and focus on you and D. Take care. S2B
