Now I've done it

[mkultra]

Yes, I believe he is retaliating. He brings up the arrest constantly. He claims he did not mean to hit me. In fact, his story goes that he was trying to put his mid fingure in my face. I came at him and ran into his hand. He did flip me off, w/ his left hand. He punched me w/ his right. This was on 8/9. I still have a bump and a scar on my lower lip. He says that if he would have been convicted, his life would have been ruined-job, citizenship, etc. How dare I do that to him.

My SIL says I have battered wife syndrome, but he was never abusive until recently. I swear I don't know this man in my husband's body. His screen name is Altruist, he's vegan, he won't even kill bugs in the house (takes them outside). Yet, now he hits, shoves, chokes, and swears.

As for the school, his OW is apparently afraid of me. He must portray me as a lunatic. He is verrry protective of her. I think that is the main reason he has stuck to his lie that there is no OW despite the obviousness. He is protecting her. How altruistic.

I cannottell you how similar our sitches are! My H also put his mid finger on my nose and raised his other hand to my head. Why? Because I sat down with himto discuss his sudden weight loss. I honestly thought he had Grave's disease or cancer and was hiding it from me. His family was planning a drug intervention so I thought we would talk about it first. He got so offended that I did not accept the way he looked, he blew up. I was shocked that someone chose to look like that! This man also takes flies and spiders to the garden. The joke in our family is that he is a dog, senior and baby whisperer because all animals, babies, and old people love my H. Now he is a scary shell of who he used to be.

I do not know if this is battered wife syndrome or unconditional love either. I also get cheers and jeers but lately, even pro marriage people are giving me some signals that he is just not worth it. My aunt had to send away her drug addicted son after enabling him. he died homeless of a heroin OD a few weeks later. She is advising me to do the same with my H, let him go and move on, that he is lost to our world and he is never coming back. It is really hard to see the self destructon of someone you love in such a short time. I think your H made a mistake and is now reacting to the guilt and does not see how to get back to his life so he is just digging a deeper hole. He is not happy or having fun. Our H's are being destructive.