My ride on the Roller Coaster called WAW Hell

[PhD_ChrisD]

Hey Steel,

I have a few thoughts when it comes to getting answers: what is the knowledge worth and when do you want it? Let me elaborate,
when persuing knowledge there are costs: direct costs and opportunity costs. The direct cost would be the time, effort and pain put into seeking the truth. The opportunity costs are those things your could be doing when not pursing those answers (e.g., DB'ing). I see one potential direct cost being the alienation of your W or at least making her mad. You have made a great deal of progress so be careful not to spoil it.

Perhaps the more ellusive factor is the "when" case. You know, eveuntaully all will be revealed or "come out in the wash" as they say. If your time horizon allows, I would recommend not being in a hurry. Fix your marriage, go to C, and then ask a few qeustions (not all of them) at a time in an environment conducive to communications.

Well, my advice for what it is worth. I say enjoy your success and think about costs.

Best,
--chris