An update from ol' Chocolateeyes

[RedHeadWife]

Choc, I'm glad she finally saw the light. I will, however, warn you and you already know this, but coming from someone first hand (me), there is going to be so much healing YOU are going to end up needing to do once the dust settles. I know you know all of this, but I'm still going through it months later. Once things are grand and wonderful from her POV, you are going to be thinking "what about all the sh*t you just put ME through?" And when she's absolutely so in love w/ you again, you're constantly (at least I do) thinking "and you almost threw all of this away!!" However, I think all of that goes away w/ time. The trust seemed to be the easiest thing for me to deal w/ because I know he has no desire to do that anymore and he knows if he does it's over, however, the aftermath of the whole D sitch and the things he said & did to me are what are the hardest to deal w/ at times. You may find that you don't see your W the same way anymore and you probably never will. She will be an entirely different person to you, because the W you married would never have done & said the things she did. I think those are the hardest things to deal w/ when rekindling an M from the "almost left" person's POV.

I don't mean to be completely negative. I am so very happy that you two are going to get through this after all you have been through and all the work you put into yourself and saving your M.