Hey, guys, I'm back. This was the first post I looked at.

SM: I did the same thing. Over the years, I could do w/o sex. I never put 2 & 2 together, for me, sex was one more thing I felt I HAD to do along w/ the kids (3 little boys), the house, working full-time, etc. It didn't click for me until after H dropped the D bomb about sex & intimacy. I don't think women necessarily TRULY understand that men don't just think sex is sex. I never realized that my H felt REJECTED when I didn't want to have sex.

Anyway, my advice is that, if you truly love/loved your W, give it a chance. Give her a chance to see what's been missing all these years and understand FINALLY where you are coming from.

Getting a D and moving on isn't always the answer. You don't necessarily know what you may end up w/ "next time."

If your W is anything like me, she was never trying to hurt you the way you were probably hurting all these years. She just didn't "get it" until she "had to."

Me: 38
H: 35
S4, S5, S10
Bomb 01/07
Wanted D - nothing would change his mind
Numerous A's prior to D bomb; EA prior/during D bomb
Piecing 04/07
Deployed for a year 05/07
Still Piecing 2010
M 11 yrs 05/10