NDDT - in my opinion..the only reason you should be having an R talk is if you want to tell her that you want a D. If you do not want a divorce....then don't have the talk because that is exactly where you are taking yourself. Trust me..actions speak louder than words my friend. And is there was anything positive between you, you would feel it long before she ever told you. If she ever did tell you.
You are NOT going to get what you are hoping for and you will only push her away. So if you do truly appreciate my advice and the advice of others on here...you will stop thinking about your own weak needs (sorry but that's what this is) and not have the R talk.
