I have been separated for 6 mos, did all the wrong stuff at the beginning although I knew it was wrong because I had been through this before but I still did it! That is how bad everyone wants to "fix" things. With time it actually gets easier.
Do the STOP sign thing in your mind, literally when a thought comes over you think about a big red stop sign. Also, just bit your lip and ask yourself if what you are about to say will really change anything or is it just an attempt to get your "feelings" out? That is probably what got you here to start with.
Sorry NDDT for hijacking, looks like we have some work to do.
Mookie, go read Nomo's thread, he is the god of all DBing. Hang in there, you are not alone, TIME IS YOUR FRIEND!
More later C
Me: 46 Wife: 39 D: 13 S: 11, 9, 7 Bomb 3.2.07, Sep Same Day, D papers 11.1.07 Current Status - Wants to take me through Discovery, I will go to prison first.
