They have an extraordinary need to "win". Great for being a good lawyer, but not so great for a spouse...LOL.
Just a note off HD's story, but my ex did get married to another woman...his ex-w, the classic narcassist, called his soon to be wife the day before they were getting married and told her that if she wanted him back, all she had to do was say so and she could get him back. Unbelievable...in her mind, that was her way of winning.
I would like to say that Mrs. HD will change, but I suppose that remains to be seen. My sister in law is a clinical psycologist and said that this personality is the hardest to treat. They almost never see, or refuse to see, their role in the demise of their relationship.
