Hm. So it's easy for you to manufacture 'in the foxhole' responses in yourself to create sexual satisfaction (easy Os), as long as you feel safe in knowing the guy isn't onto you.
Not exactly. I like excitement not fear. I want to be the bold little monkey not the frightened little bunny. It's kind of like I feel more self-respect if I put up a bit of a fight before I submit or surrender. That's why it baffled me when BF first suggested that I might do that sort of thing to "test" a man although I can now see how it might appear that way. Having sex with a man who was so definitely inclined and so easily able to flip me as NG also gave me a new perspective because it was eventually like I would just walk into the wrestling ring take one look at my opponent and give up. So I lost my desire for that and then it was like "Okay, you win. What's next?" and I was just curious.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
