I'm doing very well. W has started really doing wifely things lately. She watched a cooking show and cooked me one hell of a gourmet meal the other night. She's cooked a few nights since then. This is MAJOR for two reasons. 1) She was intimidated by my cooking skills (which makes no difference to me I'd eat anything she cooked for me and enjoy it. 2) The whole revolt against wifely things.
Things have been really nice and we are working together better than ever before.
No sex yet but things are good.
So to answer your question.
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he's calling and texting again what is that all about
Well who knows. Could be a booty call. In that case yeah tell him to go away and not too nicely.
Or maybe he has gone through the process. Maybe he's dealt with whatever he needed to deal with and realized he really screwed up.
You're pretty upset over what to do. Why? If you really wanted him to go away you wouldn't be.
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I guess i'm just looking for someone to tell me that I am right and doing fine on my own and should change my cell number
You are doing alright. You're kick ass BJ and you're right you're a hell of a lot like my wife. I see it now.
So just because you are perfectly capable of taking care of yourself, of being happy with yourself. You're strong and can do things. What the heck does that have to do with whether you are with someone or not.
When we are strong and don't need someone that's when it's really cool and enjoyable to be with someone.
So is that the case? Are you really strong and independent. So much so that BJ would not be lost in a relationship. Bj would still be Bj in a R. That's the test.
Bj I really don't know anything about your ex. He was gone when we first met. So I really don't have an opinion on him. But in my case I know that when one person deals with their stuff so does the other. It's like magic. My W and I were around each other as we did this and I really don't know if that made a difference or not.
But statistics show that most people who end marriages wish they hadn't a few years down the road.
I really don't know what's right for BJ but damn I hope you find out. You've helped me and others so much I really care about you. Makes me really sad to see you in such a quandery.
I hope the best for you Bj. Please keep us informed.
