There are no answers, and wracking your brain trying to find one will prevent you from healing. Let it go, your partner clearly doesn't share the same values that you do else they would not walk away like that, and YOU deserve someone in your life who values you.

I share your pain

Me - 39
W - 33
M - 5yrs
Bomb - 8/5 2007
Moving out - 9/8 2007