It is weird how many of them are passive agressive. As I said, if you read Silent Sons, you will see it is classic coping mechanism.
After the first touch and go, which hurt me badly, I realised immediately that he wasn't through Replay, bu needed a safe haven. He has always been there for me, and I am for him, if he needs me. I am not a masochist, but recognise this is a process that some get through, and others don't. If he does come out of it I would like him to be my friend at some future point [not now: he isn't capable of friendship, and I don't want him as a friend at present - still too raw]..
My h's family, in terms of achievement looks fabulous - all professional, all successful . . . . good looking, no drugs, prison sentences, drinking, drug. Pefect Grandchildren too . . . The grandchildren think the whole family situation is sick - not just my kids, but their cousins.
They are very fond of their grandmother [h's father is dead], but can see the dysfunctionality of their respective parents.
