FWIW, I'm dealing with a LOT of anger right now. I feel like it is going to boil over any minute. I am so freakin pissed off at both myself and everone who has taken advantage of my good nature (and pissed off again at myself for letting it happen). I know I'm supposed to let it out and not stuff it, but this feels bad to me, like if I let it go its going to REALLY blow.
Remember this feeling. This is what happens when you hold it all in. Much better to express yourself (without whining, of course) regularly and insist on reasonably taking time for yourself regularly and know that you'll get plenty more chances to meet your own needs and fulfill your own desires, than hold it all in and then go completely overboard when you "can't take it anymore" or otherwise have an excuse to put yourself first because you don't know when or if another chance will come along.
a fine and enviable madness, this delusion that all questions have answers, and nothing is beyond the reach of a strong left arm.