I don't know the answer to that. The short answer is: he thinks, but not about my well-being. We talked some more this morning. He suddenly has so much to say (which I think is because Retro is one week away - you know the whole theory about fixing your ailments prior to going to the Dr or Counseling??).
Last night got a little heated and he said a lot of stuff that was hurtful and mean. I was able to clear the air about most of it this morning. He finally admitted that he wasn't ever really planning on quitting his job (really?? duh!) so I was happy that at least he told the truth on that one - finally. I said that if he isn't planning on quitting then he should think about some ways that he could change the dynamics there so that I would feel more comfortable. He said he would think about it and see if he could come up with anything. I already have a few ideas in mind, but want to see what he comes up with. Hopefully we will be able to address this further next week.
It is true that the betrayed spouse MUST stay as positive and as detached as possible. I can't stress it enough, nor can I say it enough as a reminder to myself. The minute I get upset H thinks "OW would never do this" and she becomes that much more attractive.
I'm feeling better this morning (we both are) becuase we had an opportunity to speak calmly and openly about last night's hell raiser. He said again today that he is looking forward to Retro and he's pleased with the process they teach. *I* have to come to terms with the work situation - that is going to take some effort. I'll keep ya'll posted.
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Me: 34 H: 39 M: 7 yrs H A 12/05-8/07
If what you say surprises me, I must have been assuming something else was true. - M. Wheatley
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