Honey, sorry to find you here. And this is very much MO. I am no specialist.
MLC isn't about apportioning blame. It is recognition that the person you are with is going through a crisis, which they may or may not resolve.
From what you say your h appears to be a serial monogamist with what seem to me narcisisitic personality traits. He moves from woman to woman, seemingly incapable of long term attachment, moving on when bored, and blaming the women in his life for the failure of relationships. Or am I being harsh. Right now he is behaving like someone in MLC, I agree, but he seems to have been behaving like this for years!!
When things were good with your h, in what way were they good? You talk about 'unreasonable anger' and 'beautiful apologies'. Sounds like classic emotional abuse! Was it a relationships of equals? Do you believe his story about his first marriage now.
Personally I am always uneasy about love at first sight, and people who apparently cannot live without relationships. Your h is alreaady planning his next r!!!! He has two previous wives, a serious girlfriend between the marriages and children.
This is so hard for you, and if I sound brutal I am sorry. If you believe it is MLC and decide you want to stand for your marriage, then I will not undermine that, but I wonder if you have something more than MLC going on here?
