Catching up on your sitch. Thanks for visiting mine over the last few weeks. I have to develop your as if attitude; right now, I can't talk to my H at all or I go into R mode. So, silence is the current theme.
I know what you mean about worrying about the OW in the kids' lives. CW is stay-at-home and has known my kids since they were born. We have babysat for each other. All I can imagine is H thinking he can have this new Brady-bunch thing going on, with all 6 kids living happily ever after. And he was the one who didn't want any more kids so we could be free when retirement came!
In the newspaper that my D made at school, she wrote an article about how I was her hero. But she also put in a blurb about how CW's D is her best friend, and how they are like sisters. It really bothered me.