I thought I should move over to this board now that my H moved out 5 days ago. To save me rehashing all the details here is my link to posting on the newcomers forum but here is a brief.
We had issues trying to have children, we did not deal with it, I felt he shut down on the topic so I pulled away and took up drinking, and then we basically drifted apart emotionally and physically.
Time Line
1 July found sms from OW – he said they were just friends and let’s try to work this out but he needs space and moved into 2nd bedroom, he spent every weekend away from home
28 July I lost it and told him I had enough and told him we were done and he needs to move out. I moved out for 7 days.
1 Aug We agree to separate – me reluctantly
4 Aug I moved back home – he told me he is moving out on 4 Sept. But has spent most nights staying away from home.
4 Sept He moved out
I have admitted and apologised for my faults and have been sober. I have given this lots of thought and am seeing things more calmly now then I did in the beginning and realize I pushed for the separation with a lot of help from him. I know there is really not much I can do now but give him space but part of me thinks just to let this go and learn from it but I don’t know if I am reading between the lines looking for hope or just seeing what I want to see and how do we re connect when there is nothing holding us together.
Any advice or suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
