Please consider the number of people who have found this web site and the number of insane people on this planet. I am not sure if researchers would qualify our numbers here as a viable control set for research. We are many here, but not all stay, and we don't know a year after they leave if they ever got back together. Too bad. We would all gladly volunteer if asked.
During the upgrade of this forum it looks like many older posts were relocated or lost, if not at least deleted. But visit COG. Look for his old posts. Ask him to run a short thread on his reconcilliation. When I came here he was posting a thread called something like 'Three years and waiting'.
His reconcilliation has been ongoing for about two years. If standing for three years sounds impossible, maybe you shouldn't. Or maybe you haven't given the idea enough time. If you think a two year reconcilliation is too long after a three year crisis, I have other questions. We send young sons to fight and die in other countries every day. How long would you say a year is to them, or two? How much do you really value the years invested in your M? How can you pass judgement on your unknown future before you give yourself a chance to live it?
Ok, I am confusing myself, time for a drink. That is all.
