His confusion is driving me crazy, but you're right -- at least it's better than wanting to completely cut me out of his life. I'm still wondering which DR technique I should use, or maybe just maintain the status quo...?
Not to brag about myself, but I've noticed a few things I have in my favor that OW doesn't:
* I put my child's well-being first * A STRONG faith in God, lots of prayer, and obedience to His will. * My H and I still enjoy each other's company (except when we talk about R, of course) * I'm not needy/obsessive * He feels comfortable confiding in me * I'm fairly secure with myself, and I don't *need* him to *complete me* (darn you, Jerry McGuire!)
From I've learned so far, the OW:
* Has lived with a man within the past year with *some* of her kids * Was married twice to the same man she always refers to as *dirt.* (Oops -- hope she doesn't ever stumble onto this forum!) * Rarely lives with all her kids at the same time * A partygirl when kids are away w/D * Extremely impulsive * Needs constant reassurance of his loyalty/devotion * Claims to be a Christian, but she obviously doesn't walk the walk if she's living w/a married man!
I wonder if my being his pal/confidante will eventually backfire, as in *hey, I've got this OW in one house, and a wife in the other house who seems totally cool with this.* This, of course, is not true! I will NEVER be cool with it.
