My ride on the Roller Coaster called WAW Hell

[Steel_Box]

I don't know abour beautifully, but I feel better because at least I'm not holding it in and letting it build up.

Thanks though.

[cliffy]

Well handled Steel. It's a move and appears in the right direction!
I work in Indiana but am tired of hearing nothing, but the Colts. I sure was hoping for a Saints V.
If you are slipping back, at least you caught it and can proceed further in the direction you want you to be!

[PhD_ChrisD]

Wow Steel,

I would say that was a pretty positive encounter. You do not know how envious I am! I wish my wife would give me half the time that yours is giving you.

My question is this: Why does she have to set up the C session? Can you set it up for both and just get it going?

My wife did a few C sessions, decided she hated the MC and will not go back. No talking to my Pastor, either. I am truley just stuck. She wants a seperation and little or no contact (even though we have 2 kids and live in the same house - seperate rooms), I want to begin fixing. I think you are in a good position, so enjoy your success and start the C sessions!

You all are talking. That must feel so good. I know it is gonna be hard to let that A go and forgive. Perhaps that will never happen.

BTW, now that W knows you are snooping, don't be suprised if she locks her cell phone: mine did.

---Chris

[PhD_ChrisD]

Hey Steel,

I have a few thoughts when it comes to getting answers: what is the knowledge worth and when do you want it? Let me elaborate,
when persuing knowledge there are costs: direct costs and opportunity costs. The direct cost would be the time, effort and pain put into seeking the truth. The opportunity costs are those things your could be doing when not pursing those answers (e.g., DB'ing). I see one potential direct cost being the alienation of your W or at least making her mad. You have made a great deal of progress so be careful not to spoil it.

Perhaps the more ellusive factor is the "when" case. You know, eveuntaully all will be revealed or "come out in the wash" as they say. If your time horizon allows, I would recommend not being in a hurry. Fix your marriage, go to C, and then ask a few qeustions (not all of them) at a time in an environment conducive to communications.

Well, my advice for what it is worth. I say enjoy your success and think about costs.

Best,
--chris