When to move back in together?

[the girl]

Please help!

I have heard nothing from my H. Now I am deeply regretting what I asked him, thinking that his silence indicates he is not wanting to end his friendship with OW. I am also now thinking my desire to have him write is wrong; he should do it on his own accord.

I am flipping back and forth between standing up for myself and requiring fidelity, and not pressuring him and keeping all the positive efforts going--just letting him go through it all as he will.

I am normally the kind of woman who lets others walk over me, so I was thinking it was good that I stood up for myself to him. Which is great, but it may not get my marriage back together.

Now I feel like writing him and saying I changed my mind, that the fact he wants to come home is good enough for me.

I was looking at my baby daughter, wondering how much more pain I can endure with him contacting OW, in order to keep our family together in the long run.

Eventually, if I am nice enough and try my hardest to make our home wonderful, he will naturally distance himself from the OW, right?

On the other hand, I am getting advice from everyone I know that I can't let him in so easily, that i have to have requirements.

Uggg. This is so hard. I just want my family back together and this stupid affair put way behind us.
The Girl