Everyone skirted the issue or maybe you just wanted to hear success stories. I really think you wanted to know how many success stories there are. If you are talking about people reconciling with their spouses I don't think there are many. I'd guess less than 10% for sure. But I've read success stories about people that didn't reconcile but became better people as a result of this process. They could have just moved on to the next relationship without learning anything.
A lot of people on here see the signing of divorce papers as the mark of the endpoint in all this. It's over, finito, on to something else, no longer a reason to hope for anything. I dated a woman that remarried her husband two times. I've remarried my XW after being divored for 7 months and then living together for another year and a half.
But I'm a firm believer that all you can do is focus on being the best you can be and having your own fulfilling life. Your spouse either will or won't want to try again with you and who knows which it will be. You pretty much have to proceed under the assumption that he/she is done with you so you might as well become complete and happy on your own.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
