A lot of women, even me to some extent, when they first start having sex rely on the man to arouse them and bring them to orgasm like it's their job ( kind of like Daddy pushing you around the block on your bike while you concentrate on not falling off). Then as you mature in sexuality you take more responsibility for your own arousal and orgasm (learn to ride the bike yourself, tandem, no hands, pop the wheelie!) When you want to be pinned down etc. it's kind of like you are wanting the responsibility to be forcibly taken off of your hands. You want to be rendered vulnerable or thrust back more into the feminine role while still getting the monkey excitement that will aid your arousal and orgasm.
That's true! I always make the man do most of the work when I first have sex with them. Poor guys. Like it's their "job" lol. Come to think of it, some guys probably thought I was bad in bed because I didn't jump on top of them they way They might like. Like some porn star. But that is not very erotic to me. I like the man in control. This is probably why I have run into some sexual problems with H. He Does take control but I probably freak him out a little too. Ah well, could be worse.
