I am a little pissed off right now. I have been telling my closest friend about the lack of sex in my marriage, and she asked if I would really break up with my husband over it. I immediately told her yes, and she replied, “But he LOVES you.” I told her “Yes, I know, and I love him dearly, but I need more than love.” (Granted, my husband is affectionate, warm and caring, we just don’t have enough sex and it’s driving me nuts.) At any rate, she replies, “But he REALLY loves you! I mean, I saw that he really loves you!” Ok, so what is she trying to say here? That I should stick it out because he loves me but won’t have sex with me on a regular basis for whatever reason, and that I may not find anyone else to love or marry me? I know that SHE certainly wouldn’t stay in a sexless relationship or marriage, so why expect me to? Years ago, another friend mentioned something along the same lines to me when I told her we were having trouble. She said, “But he really loves you! It would be so sad to see the two of you break up!” UGH! Love is NOT enough. I would like it to be, but it’s not. I guess they don’t get that.
