Try to view ML like your the OW now. My H use to have hot heavy lunch sex w/ OW when it started. Seperate your thinking back to where you were dating. Make it very casual if you can.
Lately my H has wanted sex lunch dates w/ me and we meet at our house, but he still lives w/ OW. Just seems to be getting more detached? from OW?
Isn't it bizarre how it works that way?! My H seems to feel guilty for cheating on *her!* I'm his wife -- hello?!
Today, I saw him for just a few minutes when he picked up his car. Very matter-of-fact, just saying he was very *busy.* Busy moving himself, OW and her kids into the new place, that is. I was already upset about having to apply for Disability today, and it didn't help that he was so indifferent to me (especially after saying ILY the other night and ML like he meant it?) -- I don't hide my sadness very well -- sorry, but it still stings. I think I was more upset about settling for Disability, though.
That's the problem with s*x. For men, it's physical, and for women, it's emotional.
Knowing my H, though, he'll probably swing back and forth (so to speak) between love and indifference for a long time, until he decides to officially end the marriage, or we get back together. He's unusually emotion-driven (for a man), and he's made a lot of comments about not wanting to let her down, afraid she'll kill herself, poor thing's had a hard life, etc. I don't know about anyone else, but it seems to me that would get really old after a while.
My H is very open with me, but I can almost guarantee that he never told OW about our little double-whammy LM the other night. I'm no psychologist, but I'm thinking maybe he's *detached* from me this week because he's keeping this a secret from her. Just a gut feeling.
As for any future ML, I have no idea if it will help/hurt the reconciliation process since he's sending me such mixed signals.
