And what a laughable, sorry excuse "you didnt keep the house clean" coulnt' he come up withe something smarter? jeez!!!
Hey Mattie, Sorry he is being such an a$$. Are you the only one who lived in the house? Are you the only one who made the messes? No! He should have helped or paid to have someone in and clean if it was that important. When two people work they need to both pull their own weight!
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
I mentioned to the lawyer that I wanted what was fair and legal, but I was hoping I wasn't asking for more for revenge. She laughed and said, "what is wrong with revenge?".
I agree with the lawyer. I got well over half in my D. XH and I sat down in 11/06 one day after he disclosed the affair to me and discussed how we would split things. I never budged from that agreement...he tried to get me to give more, but I told him that is what we agreed to and we would leave it to the attorneys if he goes back on his word. In 2/07, he told me he felt like he was getting financially cheated. He actually used the word cheated when he talked to me...I just said well I guess you are getting financially cheated and I am getting emotionally cheated. He never stopped seeing OW for one day during our separation...if he was that concerned how financially hurt he was going to be, he would have treated me with a little bit of respect. I felt guilty at first, but I knew that anything he got out of the divorce, OW would get. Now that she is pregnant, I don't have an ounce of regret. My lifestyle didn't change at all and since I didn't want a D, I think that is fair.
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And what a laughable, sorry excuse "you didnt keep the house clean" coulnt' he come up withe something smarter? jeez!!!
I was told that I wasn't a good enough cook. Our H's do have two hands...what the h$ll is wrong with them? Maybe the men in our future will treat us with more respect and actually help around the house rather than accusing us.
M:28, D finalized: 8/28/07 Current Thread
"When life gives you a hundred reasons to cry, show life that you have a thousand reasons to smile."
Mattie, Next time he tries to be confrontational, tell him I did not ask for this divorce. I do not wish to fight,let's let our lawyer/mediator take care of this matter. A couple of months ago my H was trying to argue with me over our business (remember he wants the whole business!) I told him I wasn't going to argue that's why I had a lawyer and accountant. He shut up after that, he didn't particularly like that answer. We cannot let them bully us. I have not had any problems since then. As a matter of fact Monday was the first time I had talked to him since June and was very nice and took care of all my car maintenance! I will accept his hospitality and be thankful for it, but I will keep my head on straight and not let him con me.
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
As you well know, it is not whether you are married when you *receive* the retirement benefits that matter, its whether you were married when those benefits were *earned.* I'm sure your H understands this, as he is not stupid. He just keeps repeating otherwise hoping that you will give up on it. BZZZT! Sorry, wrong answer.
Thanks, everyone! I was just depressed last night. The mess in the house is MINE. H has his areas spotless (office and garage). I admit I am not a good housekeeper.....I just don't think that should be grounds for divorce! And certainly it doesn't justify an affair! Even his mother said he knew I had a clutter problem before we got married! LOL
I'm off to a workshop tomorrow. A change of pace should do me good although it's only one night away. Should also be a good time to network and possibly hear of potential jobs. H and D16 will spend more than the usual 2 hour token visit. Maybe D16 will appreciate me more when I return! Maybe I'll get lost on the way home.
I'm busy cleaning the house since H will be staying here. Wish I had thought to hire a maid service for the day and really have the house sparkle. Next time!
[/quote] I'm busy cleaning the house since H will be staying here. Wish I had thought to hire a maid service for the day and really have the house sparkle. Next time! ;\) [quote]
Matilda,
Which is fine but do it for you too. Some times I think it would help me alot. Wouldn't have to spend so much time on it,(more time to play).
How are you today? Just checking in.
JAK
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You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
Maybe I'll get lost on the way home. 