sue, I am amazed at your willpower, not confronting H about the affair. I lasted 2 days, and didn't sleep/eat, just cried my eyes out all night long for those days, so it was pretty obvious I knew. he tried to goad me into telling him I knew, but I didn't until I was ready. I would never have been able to do what you are doing. wow!
as for what your friend says, well, I don't know. trying to guess motivations are a slippery slope. I am no expert, but would say instead of that, keep showing him that you love him, that you are doing your all to make your marriage a loving place to be for both of you. it could be that he is simply trying to goad you into acknowledging that you know, and is frustrated that you won't budge.
whatever you do/don't do, good luck!
M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
