I viewed it as the difference between wearing what you want because you want to and wearing it because you know your spouse (or mom or anyone) doesn't like it and you're trying to "show them."
Ahh, I see. Yeah, the former was where I was coming from, not the latter. I was suggesting that HD be independent for a while and live the way he wants to live, but it sounds like he has been doing that.
As for HD's shirts, it appears to me he is wearing the shirts to get back at Mrs HD because she is annoying him. It is passive-aggressive. It does not have to do with being himself. And frankly, if I hated a shirt my H wore I would hope that he would respect my opinion. I wouldn't wear clothing my H thought was ugly. But that's me.
LFL, again, the shirt was an example. Forget it. I didn't say it with the idea in mind that he should do it to annoy MS HD, that was not the goal of my post at all.
"Happiness is a butterfly, which, when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you."
