Have you read DR? In the book, Michelle tells a story about what happened when she came home from a business trip. She had spoken to her husband on the phone earlier, and it seemed that things had not gone well in her absence. Her husband was to pick her up at the airport, and she expected an icy reception from him. However, her travelling companion suggested that, when she saw her husband, she act as if everythng went well in her absence. Act "as if" is what she calls it. So instead of "sorry... " or a negative reaction, she acted as if they were all happy to see each other... and all the negative stuff just disappeared.
Lester, you are psyching youself out, expecting a disaster. Act as if you wife would be eager to share any information: passwords, account info, etc. You need to believe it before you speak. Then, if she reacts, your surprise will be credable, genuine, and difficult to ignore.
It is not enough (in fact, bad) to believe that you are entitled to this info. You must believe that your wife is prepared to openly share with you.
One more thing... ignore her reactions to your GAL's. Let her act like a child. You can't control it, so let it go. Mark
